Kyle* – Firefighter

This one will probably be quite quick.

I wasn’t really looking at dating much. It wasn’t long after the previous guy who I didn’t name and I actually needed some time to figure out how I was feeling because I’d actually really struggled with it. Sometimes it’s ok to just have time to figure things out.

Anyway, I went to work and ended up seeing an old friend I hadn’t seen in a while. We caught up and he told me that he had a friend he wanted to set me up with.

“Do you mind if I give him your number?”

Whatever.

I don’t mind. I might as well give it a try. This is a friend I’ve known for a while and I trust his judgement.

He told me about Kyle* and he sounded like a decent guy from the bare minimum information I had.

My friend passed on my number and sure enough, I got the text from Kyle about organising a drink.

On the day, we met up and he was better looking in real life than from the one photo I’d seen.

We had a nice time.

We drank some beers outside in a pub garden before moving inside for a light dinner. The conversation flowed pretty well and we laughed.

It wasn’t a bad date!

Kyle asked if I was interested in meeting again and I said yes. It was the truth.

I know it feels like I’m rushing this story but only because it was a nice first date and there isn’t really much to report about it to be honest!

The second date wasn’t the same.

Kyle decided he wanted to talk politics. Why oh why do some people do this?

We absolutely should never talk about politics. It’s important but not too early!

Everything he was saying made me realise he had little compassion when it came to things that don’t impact him directly. He was talking about politicians with extremely misogynistic attitudes.

Ummm.

You’re on a date with a woman who wants rights.

He came across as narrow minded.

*SIGH*

This was absolutely not going to work.

I’m trying really hard to word everything carefully here and I’ve cut a huge amount of the conversation out because this isn’t a place for politics.

I told him we shouldn’t talk politics, but he insisted. He said that “we’re both adults who should be able to talk about it”. He’s right! We should be able to and we don’t have to agree.

If I did agree with him on his political views, we’d both be wrong.

He didn’t like my level of education on current politics. He didn’t like that I was able to give reasons and facts as to why what he was trying to say was incorrect or misinformed.

Kyle was the kind of Facebook warrior who just heard or read stuff that fit his agenda and believed it to be true rather than actually educating himself properly with facts.

Anyway, this isn’t a political platform which is why I’ve kept certain things out of this post. You can probably guess some of it but that’s on you.

Kyle and I carried on texting a bit after the second date until he ghosted me.

In all honesty, I guess he didn’t actually like my views either. Turns out he doesn’t actually think we’re both adults who should be able to talk about it.

I didn’t feel like I lost out though.

Kyle was a nice guy. I’m glad we met up and I know he will find someone he will be happy with. I wish him all the best.